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more tips here Fuck fear – life is awesome.

http://aebone.org/listik/lili/5730 It seems to me that every time I get nervous about the outcome of a situation, I waste time, energy, and sleep when I should just not take the damn thing so seriously and enjoy whatever is about to show up.

you could check here Now before you run away thinking this is another gooey tree-hugger inspirational article about the wonderment of life from some successful rich dude who doesn’t know what it’s like to struggle, read this;

free dating in abu dhabi Sometimes life sucks balls.  Sometimes I hate my life, and in the past I’ve hated myself.

http://waocubo.com/maljavka/6982 The most recent session I had with my mentor Kelly Marceau brought me head to head with a very interesting situation.  I posed the following question to her;

“Kelly, on the heels of coming back Belize for 11 days, I found out that my proposed comp plan was rejected by my employer.  I want to move to Belize late this year, and be able to focus solely on my writing, speaking, and coaching, but yesterday I got an offer to get stake in the game on a company that is looking for an exit strategy.  It’s right up my alley in the cloud computing world and I could be looking at a payout of over a million dollars in 2 to 3 years.  It would cost me a lot more time and work as well as travel compared to my cushy work-from-home job today.  Do I put off going to Belize and take this offer for the money?”

It’s a great dilemma to be in, one that I feel blessed to have to contemplate.  Her answer (and mine): No, don’t take the offer, it’ll distract you from where your heart is leading you.

Strangely, while driving to a client meeting the next morning, I found a podcast by Ty Harmon called ‘escape velocity’.  What an awesome podcast at a time when I really needed it.  I won’t steal his thunder with the details but I will say that his analogy in the first podcast is awesome.  He compared the situation I’m in with a hostile planet that had it’s own gravitational pull.  The escape velocity needed to escape this planet must be greater than the gravity (fear/debt/whatever) of the planet.  The whole analogy resonated with me.

My planet=my job and my debt.  It’s a hostile planet with limited freedom and fraught with risks of a global impending disaster (they could fire me at any time, for example).

My space suit=the preparation I’m doing (had already started last year) to get out of debt and not need a job (or at least not one that pays so much).

My rocket=my work in writing, speaking, and coaching on relationships and sex.

My rocket fuel Part 1: My passion for helping people love to their fullest, and have the best sex of their lives.

My rocket fuel Part 2: My desire to be free from working for someone else, and free to set my own schedule and make my own rules.

My mission control (Houston): My girlfriend / partner Misti who keeps me grounded and not taking life too seriously.

My destination: the black of space (opposite of being ‘in the red’) which equals debt-free living on the island of San Pedro in Belize.

Thanks Kelly.

And thank you Ty Harmon – your podcast is what I needed right when I needed it.